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Attachment, Conflict and Connection

Seven lessons on attachment, recurring disagreements, repair and desire, with room for individual circumstances.

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Explore adult attachment, recurring disagreements, repair and desire through research and the perspectives of Levine and Heller, Sue Johnson and Esther Perel. Learn to describe particular experiences, distinguish evidence from interpretation, and consider requests, boundaries and support without fixed labels or promised outcomes.

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Where the path begins · Lesson 01

What happened, and what did it mean?

Separate what happened in a recurring disagreement from what you took it to mean.

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What happened, and what did it mean?
Separate what happened in a recurring disagreement from what you took it to mean.
What happens when closeness feels uncertain?
Understand attachment anxiety and avoidance, and use them to describe a response without labelling a person.
When the argument starts repeating
See the sequence that keeps a disagreement going, while keeping the original issue and each person's responsibility in view.
Saying what the moment meant to you
Explain the emotional meaning of a disagreement while leaving room for the other person's account and the practical issue.
Coming back, and following through
Distinguish an apology, a pause and a practical repair, then choose what the situation actually needs.
Room for individuality, curiosity and desire
Explore how a dependable relationship can also leave room for separate interests and welcome desire, without pressure or manufactured distance.
Choosing the next useful question
Bring attachment, interaction and individuality together to choose a proportionate next step for a real situation.

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Attachment, Conflict and Connection

A little more understanding.

What happened, and what did it mean?

One idea at a time.In sequence.

What happened, and what did it mean?

What happens when closeness feels uncertain?

When the argument starts repeating

Saying what the moment meant to you

Coming back, and following through

Room for individuality, curiosity and desire

Choosing the next useful question

Another question to follow.

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You can generate your own paths.

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In sequence.