Attachment and the Long Game
The last two decades have produced a more useful working science of adult romantic relationships than the previous several centuries managed. Three writers have done the most to make it accessible — Amir Levine and Rachel Heller on attachment, Sue Johnson on Emotionally Focused Therapy, Esther Perel on the tension between security and desire.
Three writers on adult partnership.
Amir Levine and Rachel Heller translated attachment theory into a framework for adult dating and partnership. Sue Johnson built Emotionally Focused Therapy into one of the most evidence-supported couples interventions ever developed. Esther Perel articulated the central tension of long-term partnership — that the conditions for security and the conditions for desire are not the same. Seven days of small daily lessons on what the science actually says, with appropriate caution about where the popular framings have gotten ahead of the evidence.
Three books, one problem.
Day 1 frames the path. Why adult relationships need their own science. What the three writers share as an alternative to the folk wisdom that came before. And the honest caveats — the simplifications baked into the popular attachment framing, the lighter evidence base for Perel, the strong replication record behind Sue Johnson's clinical work. You leave Day 1 with the shape of the week and a sentence about your own current relationship situation that the rest of the path will be in conversation with.
Day 1 of any path is free in the app.
Read Day 1 freeEach day, one idea. In sequence.
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